Language of the Poor

Language of the Poor Podcast Ep 1

The Language of the Poor — Sun, 24 May 2026 22:31:19 GMT

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The only way to forgive is to walk a mile in someone else's shoes...

The Language of the Poor — Sat, 09 May 2026 15:37:37 GMT

The year was 2020, the month was March. I had just come off a 7-figure revenue year as a founder of my own recruitment firm and a fresh trip to Italy, Spain, and LA. When all of a sudden, something called Covid was coming around.

Funny enough, I was coughing and worried that I had caught it abroad in Italy bc everyone said that’s where it first went afte…

My business hit 7-figures, then just when everything was going amazing, Covid hit, and my business partner stole over $140k from me while abandoning our business.

The Language of the Poor — Thu, 30 Apr 2026 11:30:59 GMT

There were many periods of my life of great tests.

Today, I’m going to expand on what I faced during Covid and how much I struggled with Language of the Poor (LOP) that year.

2019 was my second year in business as a recruitment founder with a business partner who in hindsight, I really should never have entertained.

He was a classic coat-tail rider.

Didn’t bring anything to the table other than some basic admin/invoicing skills but worse - a sneaky, conniving, and manipulative charming personality.

How we first linked up was more so a mentor-mentee relationship.

He was looking to get out of finance and I was looking to start a business. He sold himself as a financial and operational lead and I was to be the business’s face and engine.

Originally, this was supposed to be a GREAT matchup because a strong sales leader + operational badass usually make a wonderful team.

The mistake I made which I really hope you learn from are mainly these:

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The Language of the Poor — Wed, 29 Apr 2026 20:09:48 GMT

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LOP on parents and blaming them for everything

The Language of the Poor — Wed, 29 Apr 2026 15:31:03 GMT

How old were you when you stopped blaming your parents for everything?

I would say the first time was 22.

The second time was 30-32.

Both those times, I made a conscious effort to STOP blaming them for everything.

Here’s the deal when it comes to LOP about our parents:

They may be deeply flawed and really messed in the head. They’re a product of their tim…

I experienced LOP this weekend, here's the full story

The Language of the Poor — Tue, 28 Apr 2026 17:36:25 GMT

This weekend, we have been looking at open houses with my inlaws to check out new neighborhoods as our expanding family needs more space with new baby on the way.

We’re just trying to stay ahead and looking proactively. Sadly, every decent neighborhood we wanted with top schools had homes that would be $850k-$1m+.

Now, I know we’re not the only family in America that wants the TOP schools for our kids. And in this country, zip code is everything.

If you’re in the wrong neighborhood, your housing values will not increase that much comparative to the truly desirable school districts with award-winning, blue ribbon schools.

This is how primary home house buying works. You’re either gambling and hoping a place will turn around (gentrification) or you’re hoping the home increases in value so that you essentially can offset your cost of living by owning instead of throwing money at rent.

Thus, you need a top zipcode to see that happen bc people buy for schools as a main driver. The problem is - the BUY IN price is also high for this reason. The appreciation could be high - but the costs upfront and during are high, especially with these stupid interest rates at the moment.

With a family, the stability is also key so unlike before when I was single, I actually have to think about these things.

Which then leads to the troubling reality:

How many American families can afford a $1m homes?

I’m not a celebrity. I don’t even have a steady paycheck.

As self-employed and a new entrepreneur to social media influencing, I don’t even have steady streams of income yet.

My books are not out yet, I’m still writing Language of the Poor. My courses are not sold yet, I’m still in the process of making them.

I have 7 airbnbs but this year they’re not performing that well bc the overall economy is down. Crypto is down. I didn’t sell when I should’ve. Stocks are somewhat more or less down.

Nothing to really generate the type of money I need to afford a $1m house.

The burn rate for a $1m house in these parts just to keep the lights on is about $7000 (including home insurance and property taxes) and that’s MONTHLY.

So what did I do?

I started singing the language of the poor.

Why is it this way? How come everything is so expensive? It’s not fair! I just want to pursue my entrepreneurial dream. I don’t want to work a traditional 9-to-5 so that caps my income and borrowing potential (at least I’m not at the level I was at if I worked a w2 job).

Why can’t I have this beautiful house? It’s all the rich people ruining things and hoarding houses! Goddamn them all. It’s not right! We shouldn't have to live like this. We should all be able to buy the best homes for half the price.

Do you see where I’m going with this?

This is a common narrative you hear many angry, bitter, unenriched people say. And there’s NOTHING wrong with that. It’s true and it hurts that you can’t always get what you want.

So what is the solution to it all?

Conversion Tactic to Combat LOP (Language of the Poor)

The Language of the Poor — Sun, 26 Apr 2026 15:34:07 GMT

I previously shared the story of how I discovered the words “I can” when my friend told me to try saying it out loud.

Upon reflecting, why did it take some random girl on the playground to teach me these words?

Well, it stems from my family always telling me “YOU CAN’T”.

You can’t be whatever you want to be. You have to work a stable job.
You can’t stop taking ballet classes because as a little girl, you should learn how to dance.
You can’t eat another hamburger because you’re fat and you might get diabetes.
You can’t get bad grades because if you do, we’ll beat you and you’ll be punished.

While they had my best interests at heart from their point of view, they firmly taught me “CAN’T” more than “CAN”.

That was the narrative in my house.

Unfortunately, that’s just how it was back then and even now, I believe in many families, they’re still singing this popular LOP song.

Like most people who grew up in the lower 99%, they live through fear, lack/scarcity, anxiety, and therefore they desire control by leveraging projecting these emotions onto YOU.

They think they can’t, so surely, it would stand to reason that YOU can’t!

That leaves VERY little room for positivity, hope, compassion, and potentiality.

SO WHAT NOW?! Well, I have some ideas and a story to share.

My first experience with LOP at age 5

The Language of the Poor — Mon, 20 Apr 2026 13:47:55 GMT

When I just came to America, I had this fellow friend of Chinese descent called Lily in the year above me who one day changed my life and formed a core memory.

It was just any ol day at our elementary school. She was taller, so she easily could maneuver the monkey bars as I stared longingly at them.

I was shorter so I simply thought, "it's out of my rang…

What to do when you're down

The Language of the Poor — Sun, 19 Apr 2026 15:06:02 GMT

Today in NJ, it’s rainy and gross out. I woke up feeling down already because my throat hurt, I didn’t get enough sleep (was doom scrolling way too late last night), and facing the music of the day, my attitude just wasn’t there.

I felt a little bit hopeless like the mood of the dark windy fogginess outside.

Literally what I look like right now lol.

So this is what my mind sounds like when I feel sucky:

I have to write this stupid LOP book because it’s my job to get this out to the market. I said I would do it, and I don’t want to because writing a book is hard.

I wish I had a big team. I wish I was a big household name. It sucks being a solopreneur in the midrange of influencer success.

Someone with a following but not enough.

Someone with attention but not enough.

Someone making a tiny bit of chaching coming in but nowhere enough to be considered a real income. Still figuring this whole thing out.

It sucks being a mom, a homeowner, a person with ambition and talents because I end up feeling like I can’t do it all.

I walk around like a zombie and shop endlessly on facebook marketplace and look at houses on trulia bc it’s a way to distract from the day to day of real life and huge list of things I gotta do every given day.

Plus, I’m a content creator about self help, improvement, and empowerment.

I’m SUPPOSED to always sell the bright side of things and how to FIGHT LOP but here I am, singing the phrases of LOP again where I’m the world’s biggest victim.

So what the hell are we supposed to do? How can we fight our greatest enemy? Our lower, self indulging in and consumed by LOP ruining our day and sucking away our energy???

Here are some things I try to do and keep in mind (I’d love to hear yours so please comment):

Here's what I wrote today, Day 4 of Writing LOP

The Language of the Poor — Thu, 16 Apr 2026 21:06:44 GMT

What do you think of what I wrote today? The story goes on but as you can imagine it doesn’t end well for me.

Do you think this origin story is important to share with LOP readers?

How about you? Do you have any experiences like this with LOP?

What are you hoping to get from LOP as a resource and how personal do you think I should get here?

I’m genuinely scared to share this part of my story bc my mom told me my whole life to guard this secret to the grave yet I believe it is such an important part of why I am who I am today and how much of a difference this experience shaped me and helped motivate me to fix my life and get right.

Pls read the following snippets - Thank you!!

The 3 pillars of Wealth to Conquer LOP (Language of the Poor)

The Language of the Poor — Thu, 16 Apr 2026 20:07:08 GMT

Been saying this since 2017 🤣

Earn->save->invest

If any of these columns are missing, you just have to work harder and for longer.

The issue I see with many of my contemporaries is really not that they struggle to earn.

In fact, many outearn me often.

The issue is that they spend too much AND they don't invest.

So they're constantly tethered to needing and …

Wow, it's official - The Language of the Poor is IN PROGRESS!!!

The Language of the Poor — Mon, 13 Apr 2026 19:05:20 GMT

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I’m scared but feel unshakably motivated to COMPLETE THE MISSION of bringing The Language of the Poor (LOP) to life.

Having already wrote a book (Agency Recruitment 101), I know what this process takes. It’s terrifyingly daunting but with every humungous undertaking, how are we going to eat the elephant?

ONE BITE AT A TIME!